We Meet To:
Learn Drug Abuse is an Illness
Share our Problems
Encourage the User to Seek Help
Improve the Family Attitude
The Family Group is primarily for you who know
or have known a feeling of desperation concerning the addiction problem of
someone very near to you. We have traveled that unhappy road too, and found the
answer with serenity and peace of mind.
When you come into the Family Group you are no longer alone but among true
friends who understand your problems as few others could. We will respect your
confidence and anonymity as we know you will respect ours. We hope to give you
the assurance that no situation is too difficult and no unhappiness is too
great to be overcome.
Our program, which is not a religious one but a spiritual way of life, is based
on the twelve suggested steps of Narcotics Anonymous. We have found that the
working of these steps will bring solution to practically any problem. We urge
you to take this program and its twelve steps seriously. It has been helpful to
us as the Narcotics Anonymous program is to the addict. We only ask for the
wisdom and courage to see ourselves as we really are, to do something about ourselves
with the help of a higher power as we understand this, and for the grace to
release our addicts with love and cease trying to change them.
Keep an open mind and attend as many meetings as possible. Feel free to ask
questions and to enter into the discussions. You will soon make new friends and
will feel very much a part of the group.
With the understanding that addiction is a disease, and the realization that we
are powerless over it as well as over other people’s lives, we are ready to do
something useful and constructive with our own. Then, and only then, can we be
of any help to others.
as helper is not to DO Things for the person you are helping, but to BE
things, not to try to train and change his/her actions, but to train and
change your reactions. As you change your negatives to positives -- fear to
faith; contempt for what he does to respect for the potential within him/her;
rejection to release with love, not trying to make him/her fit a standard or
image, or expecting him to measure up to or down from that standard, but
giving him an opportunity to become himself/herself, to develop the best
within him/her, regardless of what that best may be; dominance to
encouragement, panic to serenity; false-hope, self-centered, to real hope,
God-centered; the rebellion of despair to the energy of personal revolution;
driving to guidance; and self-justification to self-understand -- as you
change in such ways as these, you change the world about you and all the
people in your world for the better.
A Questionnaire for Parents, Spouses, Relatives and Friends.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can.
yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can.
you find yourself making excuses, lying or covering up for the addict in
your life? - Do
you have reason not to trust the addict in your life? - Is it
becoming difficult for you to believe his/her explanations? - Do
you lie awake worrying about the addict in your life? - Is
this person missing school often without your knowledge? - Is
this person missing work and the bills piling up? - Are
the savings mysteriously missing? - Are
the unanswered questions causing hostility and undermining your
relationship or marriage? - Are
you asking yourself. "What's Wrong?" and "Is it my
fault?" - Are
your suspicions turning you into a detective and are you afraid of what
you might find out? - Are
normal family disagreements becoming hostile and violent? - Are
you canceling social functions with vague excuses? - Are
you becoming increasingly reluctant to invite friends to your home? I- s
concern for your spouse, child or friend causing you headaches, a knotty
stomach and extreme anxiety? - Is
your spouse, child or friend easily irritated by minute matters? - Does
your whole life seem a nightmare? - Are
you unable to discuss the situation with friends or relatives because of
the embarrassment? - Are
your attempts at control frustrating? - Do
you over compensate and try not to make waves? - Do
you keep trying to make things better and nothing helps? I- s
the lifestyle of this person changing? - Do you ever think they may be
If you have answered YES to four
or more of these questions, Nar-Anon may be able to give you the answers you
are looking for.